Maybe i should be smaller

I had lunch with a friend currently on maternity leave & hearing her ups & downs since the last 3 mths have been heartwrenching. Marriage probs right after the little one is born, stress at home and many other issues troubling this mentally strong lass really makes my heart goes out to her When i try to put myself in her shoes, i really don't know how to survive thru this tough period. Managing a newborn should be a stressful task & doesn't help when marriage is on the rocks. I always thought that having a child will strengthen the family bond, especially when raising the child well should be a mutual goal. However, in this case, i am really not sure but i am glad she's coping well.

Her experience made me relook at my own marriage. Sometimes i feel that he's relying on me too much. I wanna be smaller, so that he can be larger. I wanna manage less of the household stuff, and hope that he can learn to improve his initative to assist on the chores when i am tied up. I hope that thru this, i can make him think that it's his responsibility to take care of the family (yes though it's just me for now) and that he's the MAN in the house. I don't wanna land up like my friend... whose hubby, in my perspective, has grown to take her for granted. I think it's only smart that i retract myself & learn how to rely more on others. Afterall, a marriage is a partnership & there needs to be a complement of strengths & weaknesses to make it work.